There is no greater tragedy for a parent than having to bury a child. From the moment a child comes home from the hospital, parents are constantly, even subconsciously, on guard against potential dangers. They childproof the home, keep track of their kids' friends, check the sex offender registry routinely to see if danger lurks nearby. Child safety becomes second nature to a good parent.
Regardless of the cause, the death of one's child is devastating. When the cause is suicide, the pain is magnified. Parents, family members, even friends often endure what's sometimes called "Survivor's Guilt," unable to bear the thought that it should have been them, not the child; the thought that it's their fault; that it could have been prevented.
I don't know Carla Wood Alcorn, nor did I know her son, Joshua. Carla is living every parent's nightmare, however. Joshua, who self-identified as a girl named "Leelah", committed suicide on December 29, throwing himself in front of a tractor trailer. He left behind a suicide note in which he laid responsibility for his death at the feet of his parents, who he said never properly accepted him as he was- a girl. He was 17.
The pain Carla must be feeling is indescribable. Unimaginable. Losing your beloved child, and receiving a note blaming you for his suicide. The guilt. The pure horror.
After Joshua's death, Carla posted a loving tribute to her son on Facebook. She referred to him as her son, Joshua, for that's who he was. She carried him. She gave birth to him. She named him. She raised him. She loved him.
In his note, Joshua referred to his mother's attempts to convince him that he was a boy, not a girl. For this, and for the "disrespectful" act of calling her child by his given name, Carla has been harassed, viciously, by just about every card-carrying compassionate liberal on social media.
I'm not here to argue about whether a boy who calls himself a girl is really a boy or not. I'm not here to argue about whether Carla's approach to her son's emotional issues was the right one.
However, Carla loved her son. It should be obvious that even if her handling of his emotional crisis was flawed, she tried to help him the way she knew how. She did her best. She loved him.
It's perfectly understandable that a troubled 17 year old would blame his parents for his suffering; most healthy 17 year olds blame their parents for things, too. 17 year old children aren't known for their calm perspective. It's heartbreaking that Joshua Alcorn's pain drove him to end his life; adolescence is extremely difficult in the best of circumstances, but things do get better. Whatever mistakes Carla Alcorn made in raising her child, she's almost certainly remembering them all right now.
That's not good enough for liberals, though. The caring, compassionate, accepting liberals of social media have decided that Carla Wood isn't worthy of her grief, and have decided to harass her.
Imagine the lack of decency one must have to the family's address and phone number in a public place and actively encourage any self-righteous, deranged, angry liberal to access it and harass them.
There's no nice word for somebody who would target the mother of a suicidal teenager for abuse. There's no defensible way to scream at a grieving parent. There's no nobility in abusing those who are suffering.
It's much worse when harassment and abuse are done in the name of "acceptance and love."
Somebody started a Change.org petition (I'm not linking to it here) demanding that the Alcorn family place the name Leelah on Joshua's headstone, instead of his given name. This is simply apalling. The transgender element doesn't bother me. What's sickening is the notion that anybody besides the Alcorn family has any business whatsoever being involved in a decision as personal as the child's headstone. How dare they attempt to insinuate themselves into a family's suffering- not to alleviate the pain, but because they don't think the Alcorns are best able to decide how to mourn their child.
Liberal narcissism is so complete that now families are being abused and harassed because the left doesn't approve of a dead child's headstone.
If you needed any further proof that liberals are awful people, you've found it.